Giving it Time


If there is anything truly timeless, it is time. It is the initial starting point, the first God, an embossed quantity. It is a force stronger than any, a blanket encompassing everything; yet a subtle presence often unnoticed. Despite our efforts, we fail to quantify, measure and understand time. How can you hope to evaluate something you simply cannot outlive?

‘Life is a race, if you don’t run fast, someone will trample and overtake you.’ This ever popular line signifies how we view time. You need to clock the least time to win, but is it really that way? Is life a race where your success and happiness is a measure of how quickly you’ve achieved them? Over the years, man has learnt to use time as a tool to build a ladder to success. Make no mistake, time is the sharpest tool at your disposal. If used wisely, it can carve you a sensational piece of wonder whereas if used brashly, it can lead to detriment unique to it. However, as it is with any tool, keeping it untapped and unused will see it rust and spent. Spent or wasted time is as gone as the dead, a lesson most realise much late.

In the haste to go places, man has never enjoyed any place to its fullest. In the greed to get as much as he can, he’s never truly appreciated what he possessed. In his ambition to move up, he never paid attention to what and whom he was trampling beneath. It is often contrived that you have very less time to make your career, or that opportunities come only a few times in a time cycle. Careers and success have become so synonymous with ‘time management’ that we fail to provide time where at times it is needed the most – often beyond our careers and workplaces. Many will say, you don’t have time. I say, take a breath. Give it time.

Give it time, because everybody needs it. Your time is not only yours, it is a bundle of the time and attention you’ve received which you need to give back. Twelve hours at work, six to sleep and six to build on for the monotone leaves your child feel forsaken and unattended. Busy is not something to be, if busy means shutting down other people who need you now and whom you might need later. Humanity is our sinew, and it feeds on time given. The demands are rarely high, just one message or an acknowledgement or an evening together can do wonders not only for the other person, but for you as well.

Give it time, because no idea is truly golden. Ideas are many things; everlasting, revolutionary and yes, bulletproof to say some; but no idea is perfect. Your ingenuity may seem flawless, and it may seem easy to just start work on realising it without refining it. Yet, the more you search, the more improvements you can find, and more ways of avoiding future blockages. Ponder your ideas, shape them and then begin your actualisation. The more initial brain work, the less afterward hand work. However, giving time does not mean pushing the deadlines further but starting early and doing your work proper justice. Everyone finds themselves at a crossroad, with the option of going back rendered invalid. Give time to choose your next path.

Give it time, because you are not flawless. Face the fact that you are fallible, and you can definitely make crucial mistakes. It is perceived that there is no time for mistakes, but there has always been time for mistakes. When held up, give yourself some time sort your errors out. Or maybe invest time in somebody else to sort it out. Brood over the solution, so as to make sure you never commit a similar mistake again, as a repeated mistake is the biggest waste of time.

Give it time, because you’re not a saint either. Run-ins, difference of opinions and clashes are bound to happen. The right way to go about it is acquiescence, not accusation. The trajectory of accusation is a boomerang, someway or the other, it is going to come back at you. It is difficult, much demanding from yourself as well as from the others. Give yourself the time to think about your companion. Give time for the tribulations to wear down, for the rages to calm and for the initial displeasure to simmer down. But most importantly, give the others time. Exchange positions with your companion, place yourself in his/her shoes. Because if you know you have made a similar error before, you can prevent them from making one as well.

Give it time, because change is time oriented. We grow dissatisfied quickly, and demand change even more quickly. Change, by it’s very nature is not immediate. The more substantial the change, the more time it requires to come into effect. Unnecessary chipping and chopping is not going to help, let the decisions and efforts come into being. It’s the ‘fast food’ culture that’s hampering us. Slow down a little. Sometimes, it’s good to see your efforts bear fruit. Enjoy your successes, because they have the power to change your future.

Give it time, because haste ruins more than patience stalls. Experience and wisdom come with giving things time. Experience is an assemblage of mistakes, and wisdom is the lesson the mind learns when the heart suffers. It all comes with time, and as they say, time heals everything.

Give it time, because your reserves are unknown, and regrets of the past have a nasty proclivity to suck the time from your present and eventually the future. Let’s not fail to give time to a current need because we didn’t manage to attend another one properly in the past. It is better to ponder today and sail tomorrow, rather than losing the shore and crying a wail of sorrow.

Give it time; because time can ripen the hues of life, paint them onto your personal canvas and create a masterpiece that deserves your worth.


  1. As animals we are subject to cycles, the human invention of time is unnecessary for our survival as a species. Time is an illusion, an attempt to dissect the cycles of nature, of life. The seasons are there with the stars telling us when to reap and when to sow, just as it has been since man first put seed in the ground. Vast monuments around the world mirror our relationship with Orion, the Pyramids, Stonehenge.

    I broadly agree with what you say in this post although I tend not to afford time too much importance. All my life I have tried to make things happen before they were ready or meant to, age has taught me life is not a race. We all have the same destination, don’t hurry to get there.

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